Wife Needs Clarification

Oh boy another opportunity for my 2 cents! Someone loan me a nickel?

Werner is a training company. They (like so many other big carriers) get government grants and tax breaks for adult re-education. They are more concerned with those contracts in some cases than they are with freight. Absolutely absurd to have to say that, but absolutely true. Todays drivers are coming out of school and into a solo truck at a record pace and 75% of them are not ready yet nor will they last very long. Which means a higher turnover...more grant money!

As a trainer your husband is a spoke in the bigger wheel. First with a student he will always do more miles. Two drivers vs one. Without a student he is not contributing to their greater plan. Get that student, cheap labor, out there and earning money for us. He is not a driver as much as he is a tool. I am a trainer also so that isnt a knock at your husband. The simple fact is these companies want us to have students. When we dont we pay the price by getting less miles.

Combine that with the state of this industry and we have another experienced driver getting short miles. This forum has hundreds of stories just like that. And every other trucking forum you will find is no different. The problem isnt him in my opinion. The problem is the industry. And on more than one level.

At $214 a week he should be furious! Yes he needs to understand the state we are all in right now and yes he needs to remain professional with his operations department. But he has every right to expect and demand better. If he is doing that and he isnt getting any miles then I can see room for questioning him. The sad fact is every one of us here know at least one lazy driver who would rather spend his time in a truck stop or casino that on the road earning a living for his family. I do not know you or your hysband so I cannot say what may or may not be true here. But it appears we have a combination of things here.

First the industry in general. Second is his operations staff working with him on improving his bottom line, or is he asking them too? Third mistrust, but is it warranted? I have had weeks like your husband. I know what I do about them and I know what works for me. But has your husband found that communication or common ground with his dispatcher yet? That is as important right now as a DOT legal truck is.

I would suggest something unusual. My wife hates it when I do this. When he comes home next inform him that you wish to talk about this. And drop it at that. Plan a night out for dinner. Over dinner discuss these things. The enviroment you are in will clearly demonstrate that you wish to talk about it in a calm manner and non confrontational. <---How is that for mis spelling a word?!! Ask if he has tried to discuss things with his operations dept and how far up the food chain he went. Sometimes you have to go over the dispatchers head. If he and his dispatch dont get along maybe he needs a new one. Maybe he needs a new company. But the bottom line here is your marriage. I love what I do for a living but if my wife ever had trust issues I could not resolve I would head home on the next thing smoking! Let him know how you feel and what your concerns are. But do it in a manner that attempts to open up those lines of communication rather than point the finger or accuse him of being dishonest. From there listen to each other and follow your heart and your instincts!

What ever happens remember you are in that truck with him every mile he drives. We do what we do for our loved ones. For some couples this life simply cant work. For others it is great. The two of you have to decide where you are comfortable. Money aside, do you really trust him?

I wish you both a lot of luck and happiness. And I hope things change for you both soon!

Ok maybe I spent the whole nickel there. Who do I make this IOU out too?

 

No IOU's, send the check....I know, I know....the checks in the mail! LOL

 

Ohhhh a check!!! I didnt know you took checks! Let me make that out for a little extra and sign up for the pre paid plan.

I bank at Foxworthy National. We dont need money

 

Not saying that I disagree with you, but Mr LB sees a trust issue. You hear her view of things not his. Yes, the economy is bad, yes freight is slow. But the money is not the issue. You have a guy that is having troubles, be it laziness or perhaps beaten down and broken spirits. You have a woman that describes her mate as irresponsible, unmotivated, timid, and lazy.
Theres a bigger issue here than money.

 

It don't get no bigger than her own words.....

The rest of you can call it a trust "issue". It is about trust, but it's not an issue.

I took off 2 months earlier this year. My wife trusted I would return to work, and we would have a roof over our heads.

This guy clearly doesn't give a ####, that's the issue. Why should she trust him? He has abandoned everything.....

I wouldn't trust anyone who thinks they have a place to park their ###, without contributing to the household.

The only thing that seperates a crackhead from a bum. The bum will more likely than not, avoid stealing from you, out of fear of losing a warm place to take a ####.

And yes, we've only heard one side of the story. And I would really be interested in hearing how someone finds a job that allows him to stay away from home for days/weeks on end for $250 a week...enjoyable.

Anybody who is perfectly happy making $250 a week as a truck driver, has some seriously ###### up priorities.

Unless he is trying to force her into a divorce, I can see no other reason for being this way.

 

WOW this goes way deeper than trust. Get out now. Sounds to me like he's liquidating everything so there is nothing to lose in the divorce that is coming. Leave this guy now!!! I'll never understand why women stay with losers like this. My current G/F has been screwed over by severl ex's and sometimes has problems trusting when I am away. Guys like this can really mss a girls head up.

 

He only gets 1500 a week? Hmmm! But anyway he drive for somebody so they don't care because they will get their % amount no matter what he makes you know what i'm saying?

 

seems he doesnt care about you, or his home life, and bieng lazy as you say, seems he has found the PERFECT job. So let him have it. he will grow old, lonely, and broke, dont let him make you that way too.