Wife Needs Clarification

Keep your head up. Dont call yourself 'Defective' There are a lot of people in this world, and you will find companionship with someone who appreciates your company.

 

Man, this is weird weird weird.........wtf!

 

As long as you continue to believe that, it will remain true.

Not having someone to call your significant other, isn't the worse thing that can happen. My mother has remained single and completely out of circulation for over 20 years. Yet remains very happy, and active. Friends, neighbors, and family keep her very busy.

One thing I've learned about people with "defects". The majority of us have them. It's a sign of formerly rich and active life, not a handicap.

I yearn for my younger days of racing motorcycles. Yet it's that very thing, that causes me so much pain as I grow older. Every joint in my body reminds me of the fun I used to have.

I suspect I will be forced to use a cane within the next 10 years, if not much sooner. I'm already considering Ben-Gay.

The amount you receive in disability will make things very tough. but not completely impossible. Use the web for resources and help.

 

I didnt say that theres a trust issue. Something worse is afoot. This guy has something going(drugs, booze, a new sugar mama with deeper pockets) thats occupying his thoughts 100 percent of the time. He's about to self destruct.

Ms Cece is nagging him(cant really blame her). Things are spiralling downward quickly. He's ready to bail. I would be kicking into self preservation mode, secure my finances as quickly as possible (HE'S STILL WORKING THE CREDIT CARDS!) and get the hell out before he bails.

Self Preservation Rules
1. I do not need help to spend money
2. I do not need help to be in a constant bad mood
3. I do not sleep in the same house with someone I do not trust
4. I will not be responsible for the irresponsible
5. Mama did not raise a social worker or a taxi driver

 

Wow, I am so glad I read this whole thread before responding, I don't always do that.

I have a few thoughts on what I have read here:

• From the get-go I could see you didn't trust him.
• He has NO work ethic. He probably never did.
• He didn't just get this way, how long have y'all been together and how many jobs has he had?
• You come across as a bit of a nag. Nagging has never worked with any man in the history of time.
• Stop being so down on yourself!
• Stop looking for a man to be your meal ticket.

 

My personal opinion? He's looking for a way out. He's hoping if he makes it bad enough for you, you'll leave. Also, everyone has some problem or another, especially at age 60. I guanantee you could find someone else who will treat you right.You deserve better and I wish you luck....

 

a driver can run hard if he or she wants to. all u have to do is run ahead of schedule and call your pick up or delivery to see if u can move up your appointments.

but if u spend most of the time at a truck stop or were ever u wont get many miles.

as a driver trainer my self...I run between 4000 and 5600 miles a week.

and why would he not have a student on his truck at all times??

 

Are driver's getting this kind of miles even now? I'm just wondering because so far my dh hasn't he has gotten close to 3000 miles I think a couple of times but so far not consistently.

He hasn't really got but maybe two fairly decent checks since he started, granted they are withholding some for the training he had, but some of his bring home pay checks have just been silly, because there was absolutely no way I could pay anything with them, not even the smallest bill we have,

He keeps telling me things will get better, so maybe they will, but so far I haven't seen much of the "better" Maybe things will improve soon, hopefully.

If not I hope he just decides to stop driving and stay home.

 

my last 4 week avg is 4600 miles I'm a driver trainer witch means i always have students on my truck.

I was just saying that if a driver has time in like over a year...then he should be getting better miles

a solo driver can drive around 2500-3000 miles but should never get under 2000 on a regular basics.

a team should be around 5000 constant.

I like between 4000-5500 any less it's not worth being out here and any more and it's too much for the students to learn anything but drive down the interstate

 

First off please know that if I sound harsh I don't mean to be but I believe you're looking for help and advice. We can all be sympathic and say "poor baby don't put yourself down" or we can help you adress your problems. Everything I say to you is to help you not hurt you and I say it with a loving heart.

Okay, you're talking about a wide range of problems. As I see it the basic problem is that you believe you need help from a man financially and you don't want to be alone. However, you've got a man who isn't helping financially and that you don't seem to like much.

You're not going to change him. You're not going to "fix" him. You're not going to cause him to suddenly want to run hard and make a lot of money, nor or you going to turn him into the man of your dreams. We women always seem to think we can do that just like we think we can take a run down house and make it a mansion with a little bit of paint and wallpaper. It simply doesn't work. A man has to desire to be something different than he is or he just isn't going to change.

I want to ask you some questions. You don't need to answer them here but answer them for yourself.

1. Do you love this man for who he is? (Not what you think he could be)
2. Is being alone worse than being lonely with someone who doesn't treat you lovingly?
3. Do you really want to be with a man only for the financial help and so you're not alone?
4. At what cost are you willing to sell yourself and your self-respect?

I understand that you view yourself as unemployable because you have only one eye. I have two female friends who each have lost an eye to cancer. Both work.

Have you sought a job and be honest with yourself.......why not? Wouldn't it be a happier life to have the $700 a month, a job that brings in some more and have a small place by yourself where you have peace and joy?

You're 60, not 90. You're not dead, you have many years ahead of you and you need to choose YES I said CHOOSE if you're going to live them joyfully, productively, or in sorrow.

Please believe me that I wish and hope the absolute best for you.