Becoming Goal Oriented

Much more than offensive, usually.
Maybe. Sometimes.

However, you did not answer my questions.

 

I was also thinking there's a big difference between having a purpose and having a goal. Unless maybe phrase it the goal of my life is to have a purpose, but kinda think just living a happy life is a good goal and/or purpose. We all have a purpose and probably only a few actually have a clue what it is. As for a happy life, learned a long time ago, happiness is a mode of travel, not a destination.

 

Now THAT could be one of the greatest quotes of all time!

 

Well, it is devilishly difficult to hit goals you dont have.

Most people do as a matter of fact just go through life hoping it will work out okay. This works in good times. Its not a strategy built for resiliency though.

But on the other hand, being TOO goal oriented does suck the fun out of life and makes you inflexible when it comes to either new opportunities not contained in your goalbook or even stopping to appreciate the benefits of a detour/scenic route along your path.

People OUGHT to have goals, yes, but these also should be recalibrated along with reorientation from time to time as well.

 

I've always preferred being GOAT oriented.

 

A goal oriented existence is fine, works for some people. Just like a budget based financial system does.
If you are going to use goals, I think it might be useful to think of them in short term ( I am going to drive to Macon GA today, 600 miles), medium term ( 10,000 miles this month and home for my kid's birthday) and long ( Gross an average of $250,000 for the next 10 years)
Note that these goals are specific to one activity. You would have many other goals. (I want to stop smoking by Jan 1 2022) etc.
Make a list, look at it often, be willing to adjust it to make it attainable but challenging. There is nothing worse or more disheartening than failing goals you have set for yourself.

 

There goes Six telling people that it would be a good thing to better themselves and when anyone does that feeling start getting hurt.

 

Then how do you learn from your mistakes? You have goals, you just don't realize it. This isn't rocket science.

A goal can be as simple as a one day's drive. At the end of the day, review in your head how you got from point A to B. If you had it to do all over again, would anything change.