Long distance issues

the problem is usually worse for the stay at home spouse than it is for the driver. she has to handle all the day to day problems that she would not have to deal with if her husband was home. needless to say tthis takes a very special person, its cost me more than one wifeand or reltionship. this in turn creates stress for the driver, not being there to "take care of things" has caused more than a few drivers to leave the road. this too causes stress due to the driver due to his having to do a job he hates. the soultion is different for every couple. some muddle along as best they can on pure guts and hope for the best. I try to let my "other halfs" know in advance what they are getting into,to the point of taking them on the truck with me for a two week turn to see for themselves what its like. it worked last time,for almost 20 yrs. My current girlfriend is also a driver. we,re on the road togeather because we both want it that way for the time being. if down the road she should decide to leave the truck and do somthing else thats fine. but she KNOWS what its like and can handle the day to day

 

Hi Annie. I'm the significant other of a trucker. It's just as the other person said, it takes a special person to have to deal with being home and handling everything that a bf/husband/gf/wife would handle. My trucker loves his job and wouldn't want to do anything else but at the same time he hates being away from home for long periods of time. Because he loves what he does, I support him in every way I can. When I first started seeing him, he told/explained to me what I was getting into and this past July I spent a week with him on the road. Their jobs aren't easy and it takes alot out of them sometimes. My bf drove a flatbed for a while and the things involved with flatbedders is quite unpredicatable depending on what type of load he will be hauling not to mention when his truck broke down. I even helped him unload a delivery and it's time consuming and alot of physical work.

I have learned to cope by keeping myself busy. I have two children from a previous marriage and they keep me busy. I also do things for myself to keep me sane and busy while he is away from home. It was very difficult in the beginning but you learn and you get used to it. And it takes alot of LOVE AND TRUST in eachother to make the marriage/relationship work. PLUS truckers need to know that their spouses/significant others have complete trust in them and they in turn have to have that same trust as well. The best part is when he finally comes home for a few days. It's always like a reunion. For me, I've found the love of my life and I will always be by his side no matter where he is or where his job takes him.

 

As the daughter of a trucker and a retired trucker myself, it was easier for me to adapt to my hubby taking up trucking. I keep myself busy with hobbies, reading and photography. I am also the Scout Master for a Boy Scout troop, which definitely keeps me busy too. We rent, which makes it easier for me, as I have back and shoulder problems that would prevent me from doing a lot of the normal maintenance if we owned a house.

Our 13 year-old son got to go out on the road with dad for a couple of weeks this summer, which helped him understand what dad does better, but he's at the age where he's cool with dad being OTR. We'd both like for dad to be able to find a local job, but with the current economy changing jobs may not be the best idea right now.

If you have any specific questions, please feel free to ask me. You should be able to PM me before you reach 50 posts, since I am a moderator.

 

Hum... this should of been posted down in the girls section of the forum... I know how you girls are always talking about that stuff down there... Hope she is doing okay...