Is 3 weeks on 1 week off viable for maintaining a positive relationship with my significant other?

I think it depends on the lady's lifestyle along with her career as well. When I was dating a couple decades ago most women when mentioning I was a trucker got worried instantly. They thought i was a 'Player' with other women in other cities immediately. When i mentioned I work a 9 to 5 they were relieved. I met my wife whiles I was worked there so, we eventually got married etc. However, back in 1999 the girl I dated then left me while I was a Owner Operator, I was young and sold the truck beause I felt that a o/o career was a lonely career. Now, my wife is a busy lady with her career so we usually only do things on the weekends even when I was at my day job. As a married couple it works for our family and for me seen as my earlier retirement career. There's a old qoute that goes, 'An idle mind is a devil's workshop and I am prone to renting out my mind to the first bidder'. Words of wisdom.

 

This is what I do but I am in my 50s and have been married for 23 years my kids are all grown up at this point.
Good luck with your decision.

 

A kid came up to me on our yard in Houston, asking about my truck. 22 years old, doing a lease purchase and struggling. Wife at home, doesn’t work, zero friends and close family, going to college and his whole existence is just to appease her. I like to see a young Man on his purpose and trying to establish himself. I invited him to dinner, my treat, as he’s sending every bit of money he earns to her. Told him to pick the restaurant he chose Olive Garden. Ugh. Bet that’s his wife’s favorite and even when she’s not there, he kisses her arse. I invited two other drivers and get a pilot car to take us.

As we are on the way, I hear this kid on the phone trying to appease his wife because she’s mad about him going out to eat with friends. He explains who we are and why we’re going, and she’s still mad because he’s going out with friends and she’s sitting at home. He tries to reason with her.

Don’t do that.

“Do what?”

She’s being unreasonable. That’s her ace card. You are attempting to reason. Match her. ‘To the unreasonable, become unreasonable.’ She will fold her hand and begin to reason.

One of the guys in the club, super successful, in his 50’s met a woman online dated and married. ZERO friends and family, no job. “Always on me, Six. Doesn’t want me to do anything other than work, doesn’t want me to have any friends or ride my motorcycles…expects me be home 100% for her.” Same scenario.

If you and I were on a bowling league with a couple other guys for 10 years and one of the guys meets a new girl and brings her to the bowling alley, how long do you think it will be before she stops him from bowling? We see it ALLLLLLL the time. Guy drops his hobbies, drops his buddies, can’t go to the gym anymore, becomes a shell of his former self and his whole existence is just to kiss her arse and try to appease her. “Happy wife, happy life, Six.” Happy as a lion in captivity. She disrespects him at every opportunity and he just tries to be more and more submissive. You know what happens next. Open relationship. You pay the bills, you have 100% of the husband responsibilities, but she’s going somewhere else for Pound Town. They used to cheat when you lost her respect, but today, 2024, it’s open relationship. And the only time hubby gets a kiss is when she comes home with pickle breath.

 

Trust and love goes a long way but not totally. Just talk it out with her Get headset so she can call you and vice versa. I agree on waiting to get married till you both agree you can handle it

 

I remember well the first few dates with my wife and all her concerns. I told her the trick to being happy is “To Not Try and Change Me, what I Do or Want to Do, Enjoy My Hobbies and Interests along with me as I will do with you and Yours! Trying to change me will only result in Making Me Unhappy and that will Prevent Me from ever Making You Happy! “
Her father overheard that conversation from the other room and joined us. He told her that if she ever listens to any advice this is the advice she needs to carry or she will end up miserable like her mother!

Been together for almost 40 Years and going Strong!

Parts of your post brought this memory to the front of my mind today.

 

It's so funny that I'm reading this now because the lady in the aforementioned podcast admits that no woman wants a "yes man." Thebyoung fella you mentioned, if it were me advising him, I'd tell him for one, ditch lease purchase lol. On a serious note, it ain't everything that he's gotta tell his wife. He's the provider so he gains nothing by telling her every little detail. A man does what's best for his family, not just his wife. Some ladies think everything starts and stops with them and fellas gotta stop running up behind them. Maybe that young man doesn't feel the best about himself. He deserves to be who he is on an individual level. I have a feeling that he may never shake his situation and man up some. My friend still tells his wife everything and oftentimes she uses it against him. He spoiled her in the beginning when he had a company that got him home each week. He never trained her on how to be a truckers wife. Lol

 

The 22 yr old kid…had to like him. He was trying so hard but failing. But he really didn’t know anything.

We made it to Olive Garden, got seated. As soon as he sat down, he put the ear buds in his ears.

What are you doing? Why are you stopping your ears up?

“Huh? I always do this…”

If there’s anyone at this table who should be listening intensely, it’s you. This is a business meeting. Your behavior is rude. Put those things back in your pockets.

“Sorry, I didn’t know…”

I ordered a round of adult beverages.

“I don’t normally drink. One shot isn’t going to get me drunk tho.”

(SIGH) The purpose of drinking is not to get drunk, just as the purpose for eating is not to get really fat. We are adults. We will have an adult beverage as we break bread.

It was like the kid could function in society, but no one ever explained anything to him.

 

While sharing my thoughts about this with my wife, she wanted me to point out that it’s almost 50 years together as we were together for many years before we got married.
She also said she still remembers that conversation like it was yesterday and wishes her sisters would have listened to it as well. Four girls and one boy in her family and 3 divorces.

 

Oh goodness poor guy. He didn't know how to socialize properly. He'd definitely benefit from you taking him under your wing.

 

most are happy with their family and loved ones