Hoping to find a trucker passing by Fl/Ga line tomorrow 10/11/09

Hi, I am a mother of 4 children. My youngest three were from my past 10 year marriage/relationship with a trucker. He was the love of my life & a love so strong it was heaven on earth for awhile. We young & perfect together & very much in love. We dated for about a year & then I met his family & that's when the problems really began but by that time were all ready hooked on one another & I was pregnant. He didn't want me to meet his family or know anything about them for awhile because he said his mom was funny & did not like american (he is phllipino) I thought he was exaggerating & it couldn't be that bad & urged him to let me meet his family. Well it turned out to be worse. He was from a large family of 6 kids the two oldest girls lived with their kids in Texas & Jersey & no one in his family claimed to like the one in Texas. In fact they all said the couldn't stand her. His oldest brother lived in Atlanta with 6 kids who were motherless & his other brother lived at home with mom & still does at around 40 years old & never married.My husband also lived with his mom when he was not OTR & was so good to his family. His youngest sister lived in town near his mom & had just had her first baby & she was the youngest in the family.
So they hated me right away. They didn't even know me or even give me a chance. They just hated me & said no way to our relationship. Well he got me pregnant & neither one of us wanted to let go. Then when he took me home to tell his mom I was pregnant hoping she would be happy about having another grandbaby & accept us & we could all be happy together. WRONG! She offered me money to take the baby & leave him which of course I refused, then she demanded I have an abortion & which point I was a scared young girl far away from my home & family & terrified. So I starting cying & begging not to have an abortion & got up to leave. His family then locked all the burgular bars & refused to let me out of the house without an abortion. Then his mom came swinging at me trying ot hit my stomach & had decided since I would not have an abortion she would beat the baby out of me & kill it. I ducked to avoid her swings but did not try to hit her back & was being to good of a person even during such horrible treatment. My husband who was my boyfriend at the time jumped in front of his mom to take the swings & his dad grabbed his mom to calm her down. I was crying & threatening to have the arrested for false imprisonment if they didn't let me go & told them that because I was so scared & wanted out of that crazy house. They only agreed to let me out of the house because my husband was suppose to drive me 5 hours back home & leave me by instructions of his mother. So he drove me back home & then refused to leave. Me being the good person that I am told him to go & go home & be with his mom & rejected him still trying to please his family. He stayed but we were both hurt inside. His mom continued to hate me & he asked me to marry him several times before the baby was born which I refused still trying to please his hateful mother.
Then when the baby came I was trying to do all I could to put things together with his mom. She was hateful at first but then softened up just a little & told me she lost her temper that day my husband told them I was pregnant because their youngest daughter was whining that her baby that was an infant at the time would not be the baby anymore. His mom had been the caregiver of the baby & it had been a long time since a kid was born in the family so she was very attached to the baby. I guess she loved her youngest daughter's baby so much & had so many other half grown grandkids she just didn't think their was room in her heart for any more & his sister was jealous of me so she thought she would just kill mine & was very unrational.
Anyway we went on & when she softened I did give in & marry him over the next Christmas holiday after our daughter was born. We were married in a small Pentecostal Church & of course none of his family attended the wedding. They hated me & it was long before I got hate pranks & calls from his youngest sister. I even forgave her for that & put up with her. I was so good to that fanily & never deserved none of the cruel treatment I got.
I honestly believed my husband loved me but part of me became scared of losing him as soon as I seen how his family hated me. Half way through the pregnancy we were told our baby might have spina bifida because a blood test came back bad. We were young & didn't know a lot & very scared & both cried our eyes out & I became terribly afraid he would leave me which he didn't.
After we married & I went through his youngest sister with the baby venting & trying to stir up trouble & hurt me, I accidently became pregnant again. His family continued to give him ill advice but play his good side & poison him against me. We were not expecting it or ready to have another baby but along came this beautiful little, Grace. I thought everything was finally complete & perfect only to find out he had an affair a year after Grace was born but it had started when she was only a few months old.
I was shocked, & horrified & it hit me like a tong of bricks. All the signs had been there but I really tried to ignore them until she revealed herself.
I did something I didn't even know was in me & offered him undieing love & forgiveness. I rented a big, beautiful beach house & tried to put back together what we once had but all he wanted to do was run off & get a friend which hurt me bad & made me angry. Then we went to visit his mom & all went well on that visit for the first time & no nastiness to me when he wasn't looking. So again I tried to forgive him but that is when he started running out to bars & picked up a friend that had a young 19 year old prostitute with him. I was upset about it & he told me he wanted to be with them & he slapped me in my face on my 29th birthday. It was the first time he hit me. Then it got worse & he was running off with those friends more. It got bad to the point he made me mad enough to leave. I got into it with his friends & confronted them & thought I ran them off.
His sisters sent me a bunch of nasty,. threatening, emails that made the fights worse. His sister in Texas who didn't even know me & barely ever said 3 words to me sent me an email telling me I was evil & I didn't deserve him or his kids. It was horrible things to say.Especially since it wasn't true. I was a Christian & had my life devoted back to the Lord when we met. I was very close to the Lord & a bit of a good deed doer. I was shocked for his family to always say such things at that time. Things have changed now though & I am sick of the abuse.
My husband & I aren't together now. He walked out on his for good this week. After all that when we were hanging by a shred I had gotten pregnant yet again & had our son. All our children were born by midwives & a man has never touched me since my husband. Two of our children were born at home, our youngest two. During the pregnancy of our son I yet again tried to start over with him. I bought a new home & thought we could put that ugly past behind us & move on to live in bliss. Well it turned out to be the opposite. He started not coming home from work. I even found out half the time he said he was at work he was not there. He ended up losing his job & fired from Trailer Bridge. I didn't know what was going on & it was tearing me apart. His mom came for a visit in our new home while I was pregnant. I was crying about all my husband disappearaing acts from me & his job & his just not caring about anyone but himself, & habitual lies. I was not arguing & was just weeping to myself & lightly spoke & said to him " You don't have a heart" because he just could not see how much I was hurting inside & how much I had loved him. His mom was in my kitchen by a wok of eggroll grease & screamed "No you don't have a heart" back at me & grabbed the pan of grease & wen tot fling it at me. My husband did care enough to grab her arms in stop her in time to cause her to miss before my face ended up badly burned & scarred while I was pregnant. I later found out he was back with the friends I thought I ran off & was hanging around a kid that worked at a bar & scanky hookers & was all messed up. I kept hoping for the best & trying to give him the benefit of the doubt through the whole pregnancy * that everything was going to be all right as soon as our precious boy was born. Wrong! We caught him red handed screwing around with a newborn baby in that back of my mom's van. We at that point had bills backed up & got stuck in bankruptcy together.
So we had to stay together until that was done & I decided to try & tough it out this time for the kids even though it was hard & it hurt me everyday to be with him & know that someone that I had loved so much & had kids with done all those terrible things. My little boy has been struggling with swollen lymph, glands, night sweats, skull cysts( I was in a bad accident while pregnant & air bag hit my stomach to hard right before birth) & iron anemia. The doctor's think it's all benign yet, but a mother can't help but worry. I will be taking him soon for a second opinion to make sure he does not have leukemia. He really turned out to be a nightmare.
We struggled but stayed together & actually started getting compatible & close like friends Then his mom got sick & you probably guessed by now her death wish & his family were pushing for our divorce. We were doing good, everything was doing great for us. We went to visit last April & when we came back all of a sudden he said he was going to walmart & disappeared. He came in the middle of the night & tried to get another trucker that worked with him to lie for him & tell me he had been at his house but the man could not lie on the night of Easter Sunday. His wife also would not let him lie & they were good people & told me the truth, that my husband was not with him & was running around. Then he started disappearing from home & work every Monday. He gave me divorce papers but then backed out after he seen how much child support he would have to pay. He said it was more conveinient for him to stay married. So we did & by this fall were getting along great! We had become like best friends & he even starting sleeping in the bed with me again. He was still pulling all nighter claiming he would leave for work in the morning, work all day, then all night, & all the next day. Impossible right? Yes it was & my mom & soon found he was parking his truck & taking off with somebody & of course was not working.
Everything personal wise & compatible wise was great between us. Once in awhile he would go into one of his psychopathic ###### rages & I would deal with it but nothing like he used to. He was pretty laid back most of the time & we were getting along. Then all of a suddenly his abandoned us. HIs family asked him to of course. His niece had sent me hate email last spring, telling me none of the family liked me & never wanted him to marry me & sent hate email to my 12 year old daughter who is autistic & his crazy, evil 20+ year old niece cussed my sweet, little, 12 year old up & down. By the way my 12 year old was my daughter when I met him. His niece sent her email telling her she was white trashy ##### & all kinds of nasty stuff for no reason.
His family pressured him to run off & abandon us to make his dieing mom happy. He dad lined him up a job there that would keep him there & away from us. So he is gone & for good this time. I also will stand my ground & stand up for myself where his family is concerned.
The problem is & the reason I am writing is because my precious little boy will be 3 years old tomorrow & his dad abandoned him. I wish now I had not of kept trying to make things work because it only hurt my son. I have no money to buy him a gift & he loved his dad's truck so much which by the way was company. So my son never got to ride in it but got to see it in our yard every day. He loved his daddy but he loved the truck even more. I have no money to buy him a gift & I have no idea if he is going to see his dead beat father who by the way still has not signed divorce papers because he does not want to pay child support.
So I wanted to ask if there are any owner operators who might just be passing by near the Florida or Georgia line that wouldn't mind stopping by & letting my little baby boy sit in a big semi truck for his birthday? He would love to go for a ride around the block but would be happy just sitting in one & hearing the sound of one in our yard again. If I am asking for to much than disregard this & I am sorry but it would just make me so happy to see my sad little boy happy on his birthday. If anyone could please spare a moment of your time tomorrow for my son's birthday please call email me at
I would be greatly appreciative & forever thankful. You don't know how much it would mean to my little boy to see a semi on his birthday & how happy it would make me to see him smile. My mom is buying the cake but all ready spent so much this week helping us with groceries she doesn't have much left to to do anything for him either.

May God Bless You & Keep you,
Angela
A very hurt old truckers wife/ex