So my husband wants to become a trucker

WOW! Not the response I was expecting. After reading your post, I may have to side with the rest of the guys on this one.
Number 1. If your husband said he will divorce you if you won't "allow" him to be a truck driver, I would tell him "bye". Also tells me marriage can't be that strong. My wife and I have been married 26 years this August and I have never told her, nor she me that I can't do something. You have to support and grow with each other to succeed in marriage. A strong tree will bend in heavy winds, while a weak one will break in half.
Number 2: Thank God we don't have any kids together?????? Wow.
Your posts definitely indicates you are an intelligent, independant woman that probably maybe better off with out a "job hopper husband" that is eventually just going to drag you down. You should seek out a stable guy, a professional such as your self.
Hey, turns out this post wasn't about trucking at all!
Hope everything works out for you both however it turns out. This is Doctor Frazier Crane .....good day

 

Wow.. die in a fire? Ho nice of you..

 

I don't take kindly to people like this. And this is me in nice mode.

 

You're the psychologist here, greencherry, but if your feelings -- right or wrong, based on each individual's perspective here -- were made upfront and prior to your marriage, I think your husband should then consider them in his decision. If you feel that strongly about home time, then perhaps he is trying to push you into a divorce... and by doing it this way, you'll be the one forced to file.

My personal feelings remain the same as in my previous post. If he is, indeed, a job hopper, chances are his stint as a trucker will be short-lived. He'll probably move on to something else once the reality of the job sets in.

 

Just a thought with a PHD, maybe you should do your own study with people in the military and trucking on how they make thier marrages work with being seperated so much, my wife has put up with it for 18 years now

 

I got my CDL temp's and told the Girlfriend (who I have been with 15 yr's now) about it.

She thought it was great that I was trying to improve myself. She was real excited when I told Her about all the pay and bennies I would get in Trucking over all the dead end Temp job's I have been doing.

Then She asked about the hour's I would be working. Keep in mind the only thing She know's about Trucking is what She has seen on that "Ice Road Trucker" show......with all the "bleep's" included.......

I explained to Her about the 11/14/70 rule's....WOW She said....those are long hour's......why yes.......yes they ARE I said.....

Then I told Her I would be quite lucky to have one day off every 10 day's or more......

Well THAT sure threw a 5 gallon bucket of water on the old campfire!!! The last two night's at the Supper table were VERY quiet needless to say.....

So I may be applying at WalMart afterall........

 

It seems like people are very quick to judge other peoples' relationships. There is no right or wrong answer, only what works for two people. Just because someone does not want or can not be away from their partner does not make them a bad person, just as a partner who is fine being away from their partner doesn't mean that they don't love them. It boils down to what works for two people. No one else can judge what will work for you.

 

The secret is finding out what work's beteween two People.....before it's too late......

Should I press on with my Trucking career in HOPE'S that She will continue loving me while I'm gone? Or should I work for someone like Wally World.....without hope's of ever retiring.......in HOPE'S of keeping "my Girl".....either way it is just a HOPE!!!

I should take up being a professional Poker player......even though they are betting HUNDRED'S of THOUSAND'S of dollar's in one hand.......

Thier decision's seem to come about a helluva lot easier than a potential Trucker's!!!!

No.....I DO NOT have hundred's of thousand's to play Poker with.........but I DO love my Lady though!!! But life is just nothing short of a giant Poker game at time's..........Is it not??????

 

Sorry thing's have come to this point for you. At least you were kind enough to get it out into the open BEFORE He hit's the road Greencherry.....hopefully all the dirty legal work will be done before He depart's also......hopefully you are at least THAT kind to Him anyway.

A lot of Company's will not hire anyone "local" until they have "paid thier due's" on OTR.....which nowaday's is about a year.....sometime's two or even three depending on the Company............and the "veteran's" (see the ONE year comment) want those job's.....

When one start's ANY new career.....you start from the bottom.....

I'm sure my Girlfriend would support me at least THAT long anyway! But it sound's to me as though thing's were quite sour between you two long before this......

As far as I go......I am going to keep on struggling with my Temp job's. It doesn't pay much at all....but the hour's are sure nice!! I worked 6 am to 2 pm EXACTLY.......and now I'm having a few Brewski's. (I'm from Wisconsin....what ELSE do you expect!!!) THAT sure won't happen Trucking!!! But the money sux...with no bennies either.....

I'm not even sure I want to do Trucking for a living right now. As I have said my Girlfriend isn't too thrilled about it, and both my Parent's.....now in thier 70's.....wouldn't be thrilled with me just driving off into the sunset either.

But if the above factor's weren't in play......I would be all over it myself......

Again.....sorry thing's came to what they are between you both.....