Need advice. Call safety?

Ok. I'm going to try to make this short but there is a lot to explain.
Today I started my clock at 0315 to pick up and deliver by 0700.
That part went fine delivered and sent an empty call in at 0800.
Now this is a weekend when I was supposed to be sent home. so Im close to the house. (within a couple hours)
At 1230 i send a message asking if I can just dead head home seeing as im running out of hours and still not heard anything. (and i have asked more than once at this point 'any news')
I get a response that now all of a sudden miraculously theres a load for me to pick up, 140 miles away that has to deliver monday morning 500+ miles from my house. I tell em Id have to leave sunday in order to deliver and say no. I never refuse loads, this is honestly the first load I ever said 'no' to. anyway they tell me no one else can do it, I can pick it up and take it to a drop yard but i wont make it home tonight, but my time off will be prorated.
I say ok. Im on my way. I request directions, and by the time i get em im almost ready to go. just check the map and write em down. its 1300 at this point. wanting to get this done i start rolling.
Stewing a bit i wasnt thinking properly before i accepted load. I didnt think of where i was going to park for my 10. First thought is can I take my 10 there, but i have to stop to call them because cant read qualcom while driving. anyway stop at next truckstop and call. no cant take 10 there.
and this place is over 40 miles off the interstate. and according to my book the closest truckstop is at the exit on the interstate where id have to get off on to get to where im going. now im down to just shy of 3.5 hrs now, i still have over 100 miles to go, to a live load, to a place where i cant take my 10 and closest t/s is 40 miles away. oh yeah unfortunately for me they are also closed tomorrow but open sunday.... jml ..... so i send a message stating i cant legaly pick this up. i will be out of hours before i can find a place to park. explained i called and asked if i could take my 10 there and asked if they were 24 or when they open in the morning.
the response i got was i went home and i had plenty of time for the load and i was going to be written up. again unfortunatly the t/s i stopped at is about 30 miles south of where i live, so on there screen it prolly looks like i went home. I try to explain that this has nothing to do with my home time, i just cant legaly do this run. to no avail.
eventually after some bickering she finaly say well, now youll just have to pick up sunday and deliver monday and she has to explain my actions because now she is going to be in trouble.
I try to explain again that this is a matter of legallity not convienience and ill pick up sunday and deliver monday but i will call her supervisor monday am.
get ar esponse back, "my supervisor saw all the messages, your off the load, call whoever you want"
WTH do i do and who should i call first? safety?

 

I use paper logs too. however im not going to put myself in a position where if some ####### hits me or i get in a wreck my career is screwed. not for this company not for any company. Ive been preached to and understand since day one safety safety heavy fines this is the way we do it or else. and im not going to jeapordize that for a load of water. now if that load was going to starving kids or a natrual disaster and was actually needed, sure. but just to go from truck to shelf for someone that at their convience can get, not a big deal and i'm not going to do it. the cons outweigh the pro's 1000 to 1