D.O.T Physicals, what could i have done to help save him??

probably nothing - he didnt want to hear you

sounds like you were being pretty kool

 

I feel badly for you. But there was nothing that you could have done. I had been after my ex for years to do something about his health, but he wanted nothing to do with it. It wasn't until he decided on switching careers to trucking that I got anywhere. I explained to him that he wouldn't be able to pass his physical unless he went on meds. Now that he is thinking of quiting, the meds will be the first to go and there goes that BP sky high again.

 

You did all you could do. You're in a "helps" area in what you do for a living and believe me there's nothing you can tell people when they don't want to hear it. I worked as a counselor for a few years and got burned out by taking their problems home with me. Now I just "help" a group a few evenings a week that are addicts. Everything from shopping, sex, and drug addiction. The hardest ones to let go are the ones who end up in prison or a wreck and the devastation to them and their family. The difference is now I can let go. I did everything I could do and it was their actions that got them there.

Somehow you need to be able to let go and know you really did all you could do. People only hear what they want to hear and when they're "ready" to hear it.

 

My Blood pressure skyrockets when I get to the Doctors office anyway.

I have what's called "White Coat Syndrome"

Alot of people have this disorder and don't even know it.

I go thru a physical every year and this never goes away.

Iam always told about my blood pressure being high but when taken at home or any place else, it's normal...

 

Laylow there is nothing you could have done. He wasn't going ot hear you no matter what you said or did.

Just realize that although you couldn't save him, look how many you did save. If he hadn't had to be in your office he would have been on the road. If he would have been on the road and stroked out, just think of how many people could have been hurt or killed even.

Go easy on yourself hun, the blame and guilt is not yours to carry.

 

Thank you for your post. The other memeber was right on their was nothing you could do he didnt want to be reached.

My brother has been trucking for years.. We all have told him the doctors have told him how important for him to drop weight exersise and take care of himself.

Last week friday he admitted himself in the hospital and all that we have been warning him of has happened.

He is now in ICU with breathing problems, he was over 550 lbs when admitted his weight caused restrictions of the medical staff helping him with test for clots cause the MRI and other test couldnt accompadate him.

He has dropped close to 100 lbs in fluid since last week and when I told him that he was 550 lbs he said no way did i look that big.

Guess my point with out telling you all the ugly details of all this is..........He still doesnt get it.

So rest assured you did what you knew was right... and that is all you could do until they are ready to listen.

My brothers resistance to all this had caused so much stress on my family... My parents are not well and this hasnt been easy cause he is in Ky and we are here in Florida.... Its a mess........and where does he look for help but to us.......

You are a blessed person for trying to help.......And all of the family members thank you for being caring.

 

Laylow there is nothing else you could have done.

That said, I just completed my DOT physical and made it with flying colors. I was somewhat concerned though. Two years ago when I did the physical the b/p was near the edge of being high 138/89. This time when I was getting ready to get it done the first thing I did was quit smoking 4 days before. I haven't started again either. Also I didn't drink coffee that day. My b/p this time was 120/58. I kinda felt good about that.

 

Good for YOU Joel!!! :smt109