Looking for advice on family

D M No there really isn't you are doing what you have to so you can provide for them, the time now is not as important as his older years as he becomes a teen and by then you should be home every night or something close to it, I think there is time when we all miss our family, my 3 YO still doesn't warm up to me when I get home after a while, but he eventually does, the other 3 know it is me and are right there, maybe another reason the little doesn't warm right up to me he wants his own time!. I would stay were you are get things straightened out and then move on, the better money you make the more you can support the family, if you go to a non driving career you would not make as much and thus make thing worse for your life style as such your wife may have to go back to work, I would trade it out for now, Tell your wife to take as many pictures as possible so you can look back on those events, When he gets bigger he isn't going to remember you were not there the week after his 2nd Birthday but when he turns 12 he will remember that for a life time. I hope all of this make sense. Stay safe and in Touch till Next Time be good!

 

When i started driving i was on an L.A. to Seattle route i gave that up because i was working with a family member and things didn't go well so i got a local gig and started fresh again with the wrong mentality, soon after my second daughter was born, i was running hard doing local (leased on to a carrier) and would be home just for a couple of hours at night, well when the weekends came and my newborn was a couple months old i would try to hold her and she would cry, the only one that would make her happy was everyone else but me, that's when it hit me....... And I said to myself why am i running so hard i mean yes i make more money but you know what f****it why am i gonna be working like a dog while the owner of the company I'm leased to is in his bed at home every night. Ever since then i get up at 6 A.M. work my 14hrs or less M-F (typically 8 to 12hrs) unless i have an early appointment then i get up earlier but very rarely do i sleep in my truck anymore and the relationship that i have built with my now 4 old daughter and my 9yr old to me is the worth more than any money i cold ever make in this industry, remember when your kids are older they are not going to remember if you worked hard or worked at all. All they are going to remember is the times you were there for them/with them.

 

I call and talk to my girls. I also keep tabs on my oldest through Facebook. I tell her the selfies she takes in my car better be when its parked!

 

That's one thing i like about technology now a days i think that if i ever hit the road again i would have my brother put a monitor somewhere in the dash and use that with something like Skype or along those lines so you don't only hear a voice but you can actually interact with you're kids/wife

 

You are the provider. Though I never had kids I can imagine how tough it can be not being there in person. You are doing what it takes to maintain the home front. That's a thousand times better than many out there.

When it comes to your job, CDL, bread and butter do everything possible to maintain a perfect record and work history. Most driving records can be repaired with time. Keep your nose clean and think about your son every time you want to make a wrong driving decision. We all make mistakes. Learn from them. Before you know it you'll have a good local job and be with your son.

 

My kids are 6 and 5. About a year ago, I gave up a job making 90k per year that required me to be gone for 6 wks at a time for one that pays 50k and gets me home every weekend. I feel your pain Dark Majesty. It's a tough decision to make, balancing home time and pay. Only you can decide what's right for your family. Just keep in mind that making personal sacrifices for your kids is part of being a parent.

 

You're near I55. Just about every flatbed company there is runs through there. Some of them could get you home every weekend.