Relationship and trucking

He cant do that with his company. Him and I are both with TMC and their policy is only immediate family allowed while out.


Snowez, my take is if its meant to be she will always be there, even if she leaves you. My wife left me when I joined the Navy. I told her she can either stay at home with her parents, or she can leave with me, it was her choice. She split, and then come around when she realized what she was loosing. Tell her straight up that you are doing this for the two of you, show her your keys to the truck sheet, show her the money you can make. Then show her what you was making prior to, that should bring her on board, it did for my wife. If it doesnt well then she needs to grow the hell up as one above said.

 

That I didn't know. I stand corrected. My apologies.

 

Trucking is not very schedule friendly. Always expect the unexpected

 

Well stated. You need to start a "Dear Abbey" sort of trucker's column.

I'd read this thread yesterday and was mulling it over today, considering how lucky I am to be married to my wife. I got back on today and read your post and I think you pretty well nailed it. Any time a man (or woman) has to give up something as major as a career in order to keep a relationship it tends to end badly in some way, shape, or form.

I know my wife certainly had moments of dismay over the last couple of years as I went through the process of getting back in this industry, pulling up roots from the Seattle area to move to the LA area, and going through the trials and tribulations of regaining my CDL and then going through a year of meager income. As the money started increasing she's becoming happier and can now see that this is worth it. She's a trooper and has adjusted to the times apart, with great friends, a part time job, etc. and can now see that ultimately she won't have to work anymore.

Our only drawback is that she kicks my ### every time we get a chance to play golf.

 

when I met my husband he was a truckdriver. we discussed it and i knew if would be hard for him to leave...hell it was hard when we were just dating. however, if you love someone, you make it work. i stayed at home with my kids who were in high school. I went with him over the summer and then back home to support my kids in sports/school. The youngest graduated in May. I'm in process of packing house and selling stuff and then will hit the road with him full time. You both have to work at making the separation bearable. Talk/Skype/email whatever it takes to get thru. Might look into another company that would allow you to take her with you on short runs or every now and then. If you aren't both on board and working to make it all work out, then it won't. It takes some grown up maturity to get by day to day and wait for the time when you can be together. and as it was said above, the time apart makes the time together so much better. We dont argue, we don't fight...time is too precious for that. Evaluate your situation. take time to sit down and talk, i mean really talk to her. together you may decide that staying together isnt the best thing for the two of you at this point.. but then again you may come to an understanding and work it all out. It's not easy being the stay at home person...but its not easy being the one leaving either. Many, many times I kissed my hubby goodbye, watched him climb in the truck, waved goodbye to him with a big smile on my face, then got in my car and bawled my eyes out. Give it a chance...talk it all out..and see where it goes. Take it from me...it can work out if you are both on board. If she or you arent, then let it go now. Don't drag it out and make the inevitable more difficult. Good luck.

 

Depending on her job status when your in your own truck take her with you for a week or so. Spending time together in the truck will do 3 things: help you bond together, show her your job is not as much fun as it sounds, and lastly she will likely never want to ride in your truck again. She'll be happy talking on the phone while you're gone and she'll learn to enjoy the time tour home more.

 

Bring her out here with you......teach her how to drive then team up.......that's the only advice I can give unless you wunna go bacc home are she can wait till you go local

 

my wife did the whole Marissa Tormei stomp her feet and protest( my cousin vinny) when I approached her about Truck driving after I had been laid off from a long term position and forced to work for a scumbag here in town.

Then she ran into a friend of hers whose husband drives OTR for the past 6 years....

I'm headed off to school on 8-18, funny how things can change........

 

If my wife looked like Marissa Tormei I'd be looking to stay local.

 

I know this is going to seem harsh but take it from somebody that has been married for 8 years. Move On!

You'll have other girlfriends this is the time for you to make money worry about your relationship(s) later. Unless you have kids of course, then you might need a different strategy.

Look I chose trucking because I thought it be a good replacement for divorce, it worked out pretty good hell I actually don't mind talking to her half the time. I mean she still here (downside) but most of the time I am not (upside).