Needing Advice due to a tragedy?

He needs to keep busy.
It will take a while for him to adjust.

I suggest he do some volunteer work, homeless shelter, church, something.

he did nothing wrong. Life sucks sometimes.
He needs to accept that, move on, and not let this make him a victim.

I was involved in a fatality accident that was not my fault 20 years ago.
The victim died as I was trying to control his bleeding.

I still get twinges when I come across an intersection with a similar layout and geographic features.

 

He is likely asking himself over and over was there something else i could have done? When he talks like that remind him, if you keep looking for a fault you will find one that isint there. Had a buddy keep reminding me of that fact, and it did help. Feel free to pm me. Yes i do have first hand personal exsperiance with this.

 

He needs to talk to other people who have had similer things happen. Im not trying to say nobody understands, just some much more than others. Everyone has difrent coping metheds. For example i cant drive on the aniversery of the day. Had panic attack just sitting in a truck, for a year after a funny bump would cause me to stop put the hazards on and walk the truck. Time. He may never be ready, some never are again, time. Talking about it. Time. Finding something that calms you down. Time...

 

I'm sorry that it happened to him and how you and your family have been affected.Suicidal people are in so much pain that I beleive they don't realize that their death will impact the lives of others for life. You both will be in my prays.

 

Same thing happened to a coworker of mine in Tennessee. He was really upset until the police found a suicide note in a motel room nearby. They guy was trying to set it up so his family could sue the trucking company, but that didn't work. Once the driver found out it was a suicide, he moved right on with his life. Not everyone can do this as easily though.

 

If it wasn't your husband, it would have been someone else. He was on the wrong side of the lottery, so to speak. When a woman fell asleep and hit my trailer at 55 mph, I did my part to preserve her safety and life, and walked away with a clear head. This is the only job , besides police officer and train conductor, where you might be directly involved in the death of somebody , whether or not it is your fault. Good luck.

 

I know a coworker who had something similar happen and it took him a few months to get over it.But he did get over it.