Bad situation with Co-Driver

There's always 2 sides to every story. Im glad you gave your honest opinion though. If you think I am coming across this way, then I imagine the company feels perhaps similar when I tell them I want out of the truck.


Conniving and malicious?..... Im just looking for ways out of the situation without confrontation with him and without having to forfeit the job.

I really shouldn't have to endure a complete ignorant racist who is having a wonderful time bullying me around, for any reason period. This company is full of many other NOT SO great things that I am willing to put up with in order to get some experience under my belt, this is not one of them. Obviously Im still here gutting it out looking for advice.

My co-driver's side of the story will sound something like this:

"Ive got 6 years in this industry, I know the ropes, Im a supertrucker, even though 5 of my years of experience cant be verified through DAC and I quit US Express before I ever took a load, then TMC fired me after 7 months , thats how my 6 years landed me at good ole CRST! So now then, I choose to give this newbie a hard time and Im freaking enjoying it,"

"P.S. he drank beer while the truck was being worked on for 6 days... and thats against company policy, so I can blackmail this newbie by threatening to tell on him, Thanks for your time,"


He has been with the company less time than I have at this point

 

great post, this basically how I am trying to handle things. Its just awfully hard to get through, especially since we aren't getting miles anyways. We take one load approx. 1000 miles.. then sit for 3-4 days.. then another load for 915 miles, then sit..., etc. Since my phone is broken, I am currently writing dispatch via QC and he is driving, but he hears QC go off and he is tring to intercept my messages.... And basically telling them Dispatcher that WE ARE BOTH HAPPY HERE.. LOL... Im doing my best to repeatedly put it through that I want off the truck, poor dispatcher Lisa is being screwed with here pretty good... What an idiot.

 

Example: A black man doesn't use his turn signal so the co driver says "nice turn signal ni****," There is literally way too many examples to list. On one of our first days together, he ran down a list of every one line Black joke that I had heard when I was about 6 years old and he laughed at them like I did when I was 6 years old. It made me uncomfortable, I really dont know how to react to that stuff now a days. To each their own honestly, Im not about telling the company about that stuff, that makes me sound sniveling. At this point he knows I dont approve of that behavior, but he still does it.. not because he is merely a racist, but because he knows how uncomfortable it makes me. Thats abusive.

Thats all it is about at the moment, with every way he behaves, he is only doing it to get under my skin all while believing the only thing I can do is quit oe he will threaten to get me fired.
It sounds great that I am not physically afraid of him, but that doesnt mean that he isnt making my life a living hell. Yea, exactly, I could physically stop his abusive nature by inserting my foot directly up his arse and before I pulled it out he would be crying to dispatch or calling the police. we've been there already several times. Just because Im capable of knocking him out, that doesnt mean its the correct thing to do if I want to keep my job and at this point in my life.. I HAVE to KEEP this JOB and turn this into an actual CAREER. So I came here, asking for advice to rid myself of him properly.

The situation isnt getting any better either, he believes we are staying together, but Ive let dispatch know repeatedly I want off the truck and our next load is to PA terminal. He still doesnt realize why thats where we are headed, however, dispatch is basically telling him to find a new co-driver through QC and its just a back and forth nightmare.

I tell them I want off(then delete), they respond, he sees their response, and tells them WTF? we are staying together..... back and forth for a bit, until dispatch finally gets it and sends a message telling us to start looking for new co drivers. So we are just entering GA heading for evansville, ind, then from evansville to PA by Wednesday. Thats 2 more days, I would just like to get there and get my #### and get off the truck and then deal with the problem, but now instead, We are going to heap more issues upon ourselves right in the middle of the runs....

And on top of it, I still feel like Im going to be the one out of a job here shortly

 

i wont know exactly what will happen until we get to the terminal and I guess Ill update you then. I feel like dispatch and the Co-Driver are both pushing me out, granted they arent in cahoots. But the best response I get from dispatch is basically, keep notifying us if things "get" worse in the truck. But if you get off the truck, then we have bigger issues. Im taking that to mean basically, go ahead get out now so we can slam an abandonment on your record and you can find your own way home....


Now this guy has no real clue that once we get to the terminal (praying that we make it) Im getting off the truck. He is under the impression that his threats have worked and I intend to stick with him and Im doing my best to keep it that way, regardless of dispatch's QC messages about both of us being available as co-drivers. I don't want confrontation out here, and I really kind of dred the confrontation once he gets the picture as well when we do arrive at the terminal.