Child support and truckers

Yep totally get the cs issue I thought everyone who walked away was scum until it was my turn .....now I went out of my way to go back to work after my neck surgery and an appropriate amount of time to mentally recover from our kids outing mom's new bf to me (mind you we were still married and I thought on good terms 17 yrs in )
Crazy woman thought I was paying 20k Cs and 40k alimony . Thank the Lord my neck was broken . Now truth be told I pay 1350 cs in Podunk KS so that pays her rent car insurance and all utilities. I left her in a paid off apt building and with two paid off cars, but she left the apt building behind and ignored it to move closer to her bf. Not my problem she also makes around 60 k a year as a cop.
Now my beef is that the kids never have #### , I do pay for thier cell phones , shoes , jackets , back packs clothes at my house and half of any extra carrexpenses they speak to me about.but now she has decided I don't need to be informed of anything because I don't do anything , such as putting kids on anti depresents entolling in football even though our eldest had three concussion s and two surgileries playing that waste of a sport. Her answer I pay for everything I do everything I don't have time to tell you anything....personally well anyways i.ll be ###### if I tell her my income skyrocketed this year or that I started adding trucks again , more money for her to blow up her nose or on new hair etc and especially when I get no acknowledge mentioned from the kids because everything I do is nothing and I do have them around 8 days a month on avg ....as far as mgtow not quite there I married a good KS girl this time around who handles money and our life with Grace not like this ghetto ##### I brought back from California.

 

Not acceptable with the eldest.

Start cutting back that money. If she wants to play god with the eldest going to football damaged (Does he even want to? Or is MOMMY dearest making him go?)

 

It's the youngest pushed into football

 

At the deaf school I played nose center. Then coach says I should try reciever. I was maybe oh... 110 at 5 foot something playing center of line going up against opponet classmate who was more than 200 and 5 foot nought. Perfect for center. A immense opponet for me. To my credit I held him off. What they don't hear is my tears of pain late at night in the dorm. Ow.

Coach man did. Stuck me on reciever, catch ball go goal line. Easy. Then I started stealing opponet's ball. *SMH... Im not even sure where that fits in defense. Safety maybe.

But I recall the nose center position going up against some really big classmates. I did ok actually. Just paid for it every night. And bought the QB on my team a few moments to make the hand off or pass before I got run over by a rampaging semi backed by two of his linemen.. ow.

 

I don't have kids so it doesn't concern me, but i have always wondered.
Why, in the court ordered child support does the recipient of the child support not have to show physical evidence of how the child support is being used????
The man usually, pays large sums of money to the ex-wife, but she can use that money on anything she wishes and deprive the child/children.

 

THAT I have to ask also.

A dear friend paid child support for 16 years to a girlfriend of mine (Don't ask. IT's complicated. But all is well in the end. Seriously all was honorable between us.) Nothing was ever accounted to him what the money was spent on her. (If any)