do you trust your spouse while your on the road?

It takes a special type of person to be the spouse of an OTR driver or any occupation that requires an extended period of time away from home. When I first started going OTR I was dating a great girl but things trailed off fairly shortly after I began. I don't blame the girl and wished her well. But spending that year on the road enabled me to earn experience for a great position that I have now, and I'm finally starting to tap into and reap the rewards I've worked hard for thus far. She's not around to enjoy them, but now that I'm home every night there will be another girl who will.

I suggest any newcomer or wannabe thinking about an OTR position to have a serious discussion with their spouse about what it might entail. It's a whole new ballgame and those first couple of months can be really tough until you both become acclimated. With the invention of new technology it really makes it easy to stay in visual contact, but it will never replace the touch of a warm body.

 

I trust mine. Implicitly. She's given me no reason not to and every reason to be a good boy while I'm out here. We're best friends and partners. Something that has gotten lost and overlooked in many relationships now.

Go go back and read what you write to us. She's flirty, knows you don't like it, yet continues to be that way. She's already cheated on you. She shows you no respect. They rarely ever cheat just once in my experience. Grow a pair and dump her and regain your self-respect and peace if mind. If you can't/don't trust her, this one is already done. By staying with her you just delay the inevitable.

If a mutt like me can get a hot wife, and #### good woman then there truly is someone for everyone. You'll find her, and most likely when you aren't even looking

this job has absolutely no room for distraction and preoccupation with who may be taking care of your business while you aren't home. The way you describe her someone will be. Time to move on to better things.

 

Then why the hell are you with her? Trust me on this one.. it may not seem like a big issue now, but it will become one, whether you're on the road or not.
I don't know what kind of relationship you have, but accept the possibility that she may not be "the one". Relationships go south all the time... insecurity issues are a pretty common factor in this. And this is an industry not exactly known for helping bind relationships together... granted, I see a lot of claims that the divorce rate is anywhere from 75% to 95% in this industry, but actual studies on it seem to land it in the 20 - 25 percentile category. While not a particularly alarming statistic comparatively (the occupations with the highest divorce rates were dancers - exotic and non-exotic, alike - at around 40%), it doesn't really speak well for couples who aren't married and are suffering from trust issues to begin with.

 

Cut your losses and tell your "girlfriend" that the relationship is over. Do it in a decent and respectful manner. The stress of having a flirtatious girl friend with QUESTIONABLE trust issues is simply NOT worth it.

You have more than enough stress trying to be the best truck driver that you can possibly be, along with trying to meet deadlines in a SAFE timely matter. The LAST thing you need is the stress of a flirtatious girl friend with QUESTIONABLE trust issues.

Good luck to you! God bless you and your entire family!

 

If you have a computer at home, subscribe to a good dating/marriage website and "accidentally" leave it showing on the screen while she's away from the house or cooking or showering. Let her see it when she enters the room and you're outside or on the phone in another room, and then deny you left the website open. No matter what she says,deny it. The "blossoms"website is a good one; in fact that's where I met my current wife in the avatar.

 

she aint sleep alone every night while you are 5000 miles away, trust me all otr drivers are loosers meanings they be gone for weeks and think money is happiness for their women, all of them had bad experience when it comes to relationship nd i don't need to know your story but i know for a fact your wife is cheating on you.

 

Check your shoes; if they're spit shined, that narrows it down to the Marine Corps.

 

Don't worry about it!! It is not worth it. Or you could take her with you and let her work the parking lot while you sleep that would bring in some extra cash!

 

My wife left me and our 1 year old son within a year of me getting my CDL (I wasn't even OTR, did regional food service delivery, home every other night, 4 day work week). Huge flirt, cheated on me, took her back, sound familiar? Let her go now, before you need a divorce attorney.

My fiancée, who has been with me for 7 years, has stuck with me through a whole lot of ups and downs, we have 2 kids together and 4 in all. You will be able to tell the right one, and the right one doesn't do things to jeopardize your trust while you're out working, or sabotage the relationship behind your back.

 

Long story Short....NOT ALL...But #### near EVERY TRUCK DRIVER HAS BEEN THRU THIS when they JUST STARTING OUT IN THIS INDUSTRY...IT TAKES A VERY SPECIAL WOMAN TO MANAGE A RELATIONSHIP WITH A trucker BEING GONE...WOMAN are used to being up under a man at night when a man is not there to hold em and cuddle they become insecure and there mind wonders...then they believe that HORRIBLE FRIEND U NEVER LIKED N DA 1ST PLACE..telling them all kinds of stories bout truckers have different woman in different states while for some of us this may be TRUE..but something made us do this hmmm... I don't know MAYBE A UNFAITFUL GIRLFRIEND..ME PERSONALLY DONT MIND HAVING WOMEN IN OTHER STATES..BUT HEY THATS JUST ME...SPEAKING FOR ME ONLY..but for others it ain't.I been trucking well over 10 years...I got a buddy of mines been had his CDL but just went OTR..he got mad w me for over a month long...DIDNT SPEAK OR CALL ME .simply BECAUSE I TOLD HIM DA TRUTH ...One night he couldn't get in touch with his girl...needless to say this is when he 1st went out after home time it was a Friday she haven't called him all day...he's sitting at DA truckstop pacing from truckstop to truck...back n forth I told him listen U DONT HAVE TIME TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT SHE IS DOING...WHATEVERS GUNNA HAPPEN IS GUNNA HAPPEN BOTTOM LINE.HE HUnG UP N MY FACE...After a month he called me back apologizing to me and said you were dead on RIGHT..SHE WAS USING HIM FOR HIS MONEY...LOL POOR GUY DIDNT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP..HE HAD A "FINANCIAL ADVISOR" ...Now he's not with her n e more n happy then he can ever be ...moral OF DA story...been there Done That! Da right WOMAN WILL NOT HAVE U STRESSING AT ALL......G0OD LUCK! N DONT SWEAT DA SMALL STUFF...THINGS WILL WORK OUT...FIND A WOMAN WHO RESPECTS YOU AND WHAT YOU DO.....