Don’t be so hard on yourself!!!!

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  1. Penguin1

    Penguin1 Bobtail Member

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    Now that I have completed my CDL school at a local college (working on passing the exam now), I had to go through some emotional growth. Let me explain.
    In my school, we had a certain number of hours and time. For example, when we learned the backing maneuvers, we had one truck, one instructor and seven students. We each had to take a turn which can be stressful within itself because one student can take much longer than another student. So there was always a lot of waiting out in the HEAT. Yes, I was one of the students who took a lot longer than the rest of the class.

    So here I am, awaiting my next CDL exam since I failed the first one. However, I learned from my experience AND had some personal growth. I am a middle aged woman, and “things” usually don’t take this long for me to “get it”. What I learned the most about being in the bottom of the class was that everyone learns at a different pace. I had to be kind to myself regardless. For me, I believe I had to mainly deal with shame and maybe that’s because I was judging myself very harshly. Once I learned not to judge myself and accept the now and here, I started feeling better about myself.
     
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  3. LDLWells

    LDLWells Heavy Load Member

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    What advice would you give the people that have to wait? Would you prefer them to watch or should they not watch? Would you prefer they act uninterested?
     
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  4. WannabeTrucker1221

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    How was your experience going through this at a college? I applied at Prime, Inc., but the recruiters were so rude and dismissive on the phone that it turned me off of mega carriers altogether for training.
     
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    Some large carriers are pretty good. Don't dismiss them all because one person at one carrier was rude.
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  6. Lonesome

    Lonesome Mr. Sarcasm

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    Good luck to ya, whatever life throws at you!
     
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  7. scott180

    scott180 Medium Load Member

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    So it took you some time to learn how to back up. And? Seriously, and???
    Did you learn? Yes or no?
    You aren't good at backing up. Me neither. But I bet your safe.
    I know I'm not great at backing up. I use GOAL alot. But I don't hit anything. Bosses like drivers who don't hit things.

    Remember you are not perfect. Remembering that is a good thing.
    It'll make you double check yourself.
    You'll catch your errors before they become incidents. You'll be a top driver.

    Welcome to the ride.
    Now go easy on yourself. :)
     
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  8. LDLWells

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    Tonight I'm having to backup to get to a load line. After 14 years and being able to backup up a lease road for miles I'm still getting out to look because I have 3" of clearance from a set of stairs and a separator (it's filled with things that go boom) about 18". I've already let safety know but this is nerve wrecking
     
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  9. jamespmack

    jamespmack Road Train Member

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    Interesting thread. I want to tell, you folks that your hard on yourself. Your a professional because you are trying. And trust me one day with enough experience its gonna be easy. But you will still have a day now and them that you wiff. Dont hit nothing, and dont sweat it. Happens to everyone now and again.
     
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  10. gentleroger

    gentleroger Road Train Member

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    I judge myself VERY harshly, but I am also kind to myself. There is a difference between judgement and shame. Judgement is "this is what you did wrong, fix it", shame is "I dun f'd the h to the s, hope no one finds out".

    I don't think a week has gone by in the last 10 years where I haven't said "Roger, that was dumb" or "Roger, just how MANY times were you dropped on your head as a child?". Being self critical is what allows the mediocre to become average and the average to become good.
     
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