if you're using the GWB and Cross Bronx as a through route to New England, then the Tappan Zee is only a 20 mile difference.
I do Pittsburgh almost every day and it's not that bad. See, all about perspective as I'm sure you guys run areas that would make me cringe (Cali, no thanks!).
Like any area if you do it enough and know the dirty little secrets then it's not a problem. Pittsburgh is a great city otherwise.
Honestly would people even be scared of NYC if they knew for sure if they could fit under that wrongfully marked bridge. It's really the only issue I have.