Gay trainers/trainees.

something you want to tell us? LOL couldn't let that one get away. LOL

had a buddy in the Army in the 80's decide to get my thoughts on his new found sexual preference. He decided to "come out" one night while we were at a club. not sure if he wanted me to report him and get him tossed out. (which I doubt) or if he just wanted to see the reactions of someone he considered a friend, before going public.
I didn't care what he was looking at, as long as it wasn't me. basically what I told him although in a nicer way. Homosexuals seem to be their own worst enemy when they get near folks who don't like them, or are offended by them. It seems as though they go to great lengths to "announce" their preference and then get upset when they get the reaction they knew would come.
sure we talk about girls, conquests, and even the "bucket list" but not with just anyone. those are generally conversations had with friends. Folks who you know the fair play rules of conv before you begin. I have a few straight friends who get visibly upset if you talk about girls/women when they are around, so we don't talk about that.
as far as someone who is homosexual, I have a few friends that are, and they know the rules of fair talk as well. If conversation goes the route of "look at the ####### on that critter" they are allowed (best word I could think of, not meaning I "allow or control them in any way") to converse in kind. Of course we will get up and say THAT"S DISGUSTING but generally in good fun.
If you let other's fears and attitudes control your life, then the one with the problem is you.

 

Best thing to be is don't act or don't tell just be your self my best friend is a gay and he fits in with us straight guys,

 

Not any more, Im telling everyone.

 

Gay but don't feel the need to tell everyone, also don't try to hide it...If you know you know if you don't that is okay too...Also, know enought to know that sometime it is a very good idea to be low key. Ride a motorcycle and camp at motorcycle camp grounds...It has never seemed like a good idea to me that when I set up camp in a motorcycle camp ground were more often than not there is only 3 or 4 women and 50 men...Do think this is a good place to stand up and say Hey Ya'll I'm Gay....Everyone needs to decide when it is okay to out themself...but you also need to think about your saftey too.

Also when I have been at other jobs were I traveled for work and they put me in the room with another woman I did not know...I did not feel the need to tell her I was Gay. I was not going to hit on her and no reason to make her unconfrontable about sharing a room with me.

 

Just don't ask them if they have their #### packed for the trip....they might get offended....

 

While a trainee, my trainer did not know - nor did I feel the need to communicate - my sexual preference. Based on past conversations, I do not believe my trainer would have had an issue with my being bi-sexual. I didn't try to hide it, but my trainer never asked, and I never told. It is my opinion that unless a trainee intends to have sexual relations with his/her trainer (which is typically against company policy), sexual preference should not be discussed - at least not until after a week or two. I hold the same opinion on the topics of religion and politics: they will more than likely come up eventually, but I would not encourage such discussion from the start. It would sure be awkward being stuck in a tiny cube of a truck with someone who you have a strong disagreement with.

 

I am getting ready to go through training. I myself can relate to this thread. I'm a gay male who is not very masculine. What I've learned is stand up for yourself and don't take no crap. If a trainer has a problem with you then they are not doing what they are being paid for. If I would ever feel like I am being discriminated against by the person who is supposed to be my mentor then I would tell them to let me out at the next terminal. I did not choose this job or to ride with someone to be made uncomfortable. My sexual preference is not something that needs to be discussed nor made fun of. Many people today who are gay have the same careers just as straight people. During training I believe we should keep our opinions to and beliefs to yourself. Lets keep it professional like we are supposed to do. I'm not quiet and never will be. I have the same rights as everyone else and I'm not ever going to let anyone tell me differently. If you don't like me then that's your opinion but remember as a trainer your not getting paid for your opinion.

 

Ok i will put my 2 cents in. I would have never came on here and posted i was gay. If you are worried that a recruiter or trainer would treat you different then just keep quite about it and soon you will be in your own truck. I for 1 don't care if i had a trainer that was gay, or had a team driver that was gay, doesn't bother me, i had a gay friend when i lived up north. Your only human. For all you homophobes get over yourself a gay man wouldn't even look at you twice, so stop thinking you are all that and a "gay" wants you to, it doesn't work like that. Only thing EVERYONE needs to see is the persons personality, a personality is what really make the person.

 

I know this is an old post, but I have to put in my 2 cents. If a trainer or recruiter discriminates against you because of your sexual preference, it is illegal. With that being said, I don't introduce myself and with in hours of meeting them say "By the way, Im straight in case you haven't figured that out." So I don't know why a person who is homosexual would feel the need to explain themselves in that way unless they asked you. But if they come right out and ask you what your preference is, they would probably get in trouble for it, so to be honest, this should be a non issue.

Furthermore, I would just like to say that anyone who is homophobic should not take any job that requires them living that closely with someone for a long period of time, as this is something they will most definitely encounter sooner or later. Why even put yourself in the position to have to deal with it if it is something that makes you that uncomfortable?

 

Such an old argument... We are not talking about people being uncomfortable around clowns or people with cowboy hats, we're talking about not sleeping in a truck with someone who's lifestyle goes against a religion, culture and moral compass that my family has adhered to for generations. Should I take up interior decorating then complain to everyone about being discriminated against for being heterosexual? There are certain expectations in certain industries, sorry to shock you but truck driving was once upon a time considered a manly vocation.