Getting Wife to Adjust So I won't Have to Worry!!!!!

Been there..its difficult
get her the phone# to a good plumber..handyman or neighbor so your/home issues are covered.
Have her car serviced..get the phone# to AAA or a local towing company.
Get her acredit card or visa
Get her a cell phone.
Get her a bible.

Explain that sometimes the man has to leave the cave to hunt and gather the food.

Say Goodbye....Be the strong 1.she doesnt need you to be weak..she needs you to be strong on this and be firm(trust me,she needs your strength on this)
Explain to her that a man has to work/provide and right now this is the opportunity that you have decided to pursue for the betterment of BOTH of you.
A man can sit at home and be home and sit on the couch EVERYDAY and sleep at HOME with his wife EVERYNIGHT and never leave the house(till they kick you out for rent)...but what good would that do?

Trust me..as she watches you pull up in your new "Big rig"in the driveway and blow the air horn and take people for rides..she will be proud of you.
And as she watches you come/Go on trips she will see you Grow as a man..and as you return from trips you may notice changes in her,as she grows as a woman(she can do it)



O' and good luck.weather trucking becomes a "Life"as it has for me or is just something you do for a few years..it is a expeience i wouldnt have given up for ANYTHING..i have been EVERYWHERE and seen EVERYTHING!!

Go ahead and test me?...where have i been to?..just name a city state..place?..go ahead..................................Yep.Been there(100times)

 

The answer is to stay home... six weeks? And married? That attitude cost me my first marriage and darn near my relationship with my kids... this job isn't worth losing a marriage over.

 

Good advice, i agree with all you said but still have to agree that
being out 3 to 5 weeks and then home for 3 to 5 days will be a
major adjustment for all new drivers with families.
Suggestions besides what you already stated?

 

Communication! Call her daily and let her know how you're progressing. Hear her out on any complaints she may have and deal with it appropriately.
You being away may make her a stronger woman, realizing that she can accomplish many tasks that she thought impossible before, making her feel needed also.
Your 1st year in trucking is going to be tough. You'll be out and away from home for weeks at a time. The first few weeks/months with a trainer and then fulfilling your contract to that company. After that 1st year is up and you have a little experience under your belt, you can opt for a trucking company that's local or one that gets you home more often during the week and weekends.
Good luck to the both of you.

 

....I can tell you it takes a special kind of woman to be a trucker's wife. I hope that you have that.

 

It is very important to have the support of your spouse. Being away can put stress on a relationship. Knowing that it won't be forever should help. Once you have a year or two experience you may find a local or regional job which will get you home more regularly. Communication is paramount.

 

I am a new trucker wife, he has been out for 4 months and we have not asked for home time yet, we have still seen each other every 3 weeks as his route of 11 western states has him around here. I have rescreened a screen and hung 2 levelors because the dog decided to come in for the night. I have done alot that he use to do. I have taken up bingo, crocheting and water areobics. I lost a husband to trucking and the last kid moved out so me and the animals hang out together. It will be only 2yrs and than he will get a local job. This is nothing compared to what the military wives go through when there husbands are deployed time and time again.

 

Its been four months for me now and my wife is just now starting to adjust. The first two trips she had a real hard time with. She still has her moments but for the most part the rewards out weigh the bad moments. If you have a strong woman like I have she will realize it sooner than you think. Next thing you know she will be packing your bags for you and makeing plans on what the two of you will be doing the next time you get home. Good luck to you!