GF says no to Estes xtraboard! Advice for a good alternative?

Lmao ...yeah Dr Phil won't be calling me for advice anytime soon either ....got a new deere coming next month that my gf didn't approve of , told the gf the deere will be here long after you are gone .

 

Doing line haul work, you'll do a lot less work for a lot more money.

 

That is roughly 2 years above my average! Lol. Seriously....... You have it figured out. Do what you have to do. Apparently, you are a young man, play your cards right, and you can be very successful in this industry. You have already surpassed 90+ percent of your peers! Love is s crazy, unpredictable thing. Look out for #1. Good luck.

 

Not sure what "s crazy" means. I meant "a crazy thing". Misspelling seems to be my "norm" lately

 

Or workers comp, get hurt on the job and you are on your own

 

Thanks P608. I forgot to mention that.

 

If you’re serious about a long term relationship including marriage and children . You and she need to consider the security provided by a union job with predictable work hours, good health insurance , paid days off , etc.

and if she’s the right one, she will understand,
What if you were going to college somewhere and couldn’t be around every night ?


when I first met the girl that would be my future wife i was working regional from 5 am to 10:30 pm, some nights I just slept at the terminal instead of driving half hour home. When I got married I was out for ten days and home for five.

When we were ready for kids , I stumbled into a job as a maintenance supervisor at a medical facility 8-5 Monday thru Friday, so I sold my rig and took the normal job. and I’m glad I did, I was able to be around while my kids were growing up.

We are still together 28 years later, and mostly empty nesters , the last kid hasn’t
Moved out,( he’s a truck driver that’s home most weekends) she’s an accountant and works from home three days a week and in an office two days because of covid , but when she’s at home I don’t even see her, she’s in a spare bedroom / covid office on the computer , sometimes 16 hours a day to do her job , but she earns very good money keeping up with other peoples money. At quarter end and, and especially fiscal year end, I hardly see her, because she works 16 hours a day for a week to get the reports out

But when you’re first starting out before the kids come along, you need to bust your butt and make some money for a down payment on a house or whatever,
Saving up a down payment for a house is super hard to do nowdays.

take the line haul or the union job , and don’t borrow any money for anything except a house , figure out a way to pay cash for cars, furniture etc.

if she can’t handle you being gone a couple of nights a week , y’all have other issues that need to be worked out. Usually those issues are called “clingy” “needy” and “insecure” and stuff like that and are hard to get past .

If you have young kids , that’s a whole different ballgame, if you have young kids then you should figure out a normal job where you can be home to help raise the kids and spend time with them .

 

Makes me wonder if some know what they're getting into when they're starting a relationship with a trucker. If anything sit them down and inform them that people in other lines of work like airline pilots, nurses, and railroad workers are all bound to be away from home for days at a time. If people carry long-hours/away from workers in high regard, then someone in any given segment of the trucking industry shouldn't be any different.

At best, the realization that many other "highly regarded" careers spend hours or days away from home should at least make one feel more accepting. If not, then maybe it's time for reevaluating of the relationship on both sides. That's about all I can throw into this fight despite not having any relationship experience at my age. I mean, I knew how to talk to people. But in the end, I just ended up either weirding or creeping people out. But my failures in that department are for another thread.

 

No simping allowed.

I may be mistaken, but your situation sounds like trust issues, or a lack of trust. If you are trying to reach your financial goals, you are going to have to grind and be on point bringing that A Game every day. Your lady doesn’t seem to think that you will be able to satisfy both your goals and her at the same time. Why is that? Don’t answer, just think about it. She doesn’t trust you because of a situation with you and a job.

“How do I fix this, Six?”

A woman responds according to the kind of man that you are. If she’s giving you a hell no and ultimatums, you have your work cut out for you. If you stand your ground and she is stubborn, be prepared to lose her. If you fold, be prepared to lose the Man Card.
Ever see one of those guys that have to ask for permission to do anything? Ever see one of henpecked guys who follow their women around a grocery store in silent submission, pushing the buggy and carrying her purse? Lost the ManCard long ago and now he’s a shell of his former self.

I knew a driver that tried to make his adult son leave the house or find a job. The wife told him that her son doesn’t have to work. 10 years later, wife, son and girlfriend are all laying around the house not working, and my buddy has to go home and do chores. Every time junior over flows the toilet, dad had to take home time and attack the toilet clogs. BTW junior’s age 30.

She has to know that you are rock solid. Do what you say you will. Every single time. It will build the trust.