Newbie dropped by Mentor and now on his own and not happy

Discussion in 'Questions From New Drivers' started by wifeathome, Dec 9, 2011.

  1. wifeathome

    wifeathome Bobtail Member

    Dec 9, 2011
    So my husband had a crappy mentor, now his 4-6 wks training turned into 7 and a half, he was dropped at a terminal a two day trek away from home. His mentor did not train, just used the extra driver, very little shared about the technicalities of the job. He is now in a truck, alone, with only some of his supplies, terminal is closed, he has a truck he is not familiar with, is pissed as all get out after waiting for two days for a way home. Any advice as to what a supportive wife needs to say?
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  3. customtanks

    customtanks Light Load Member

    Jul 13, 2008
    The Great NW
    well that depends, What company?
  4. Boonie

    Boonie Light Load Member

    Nov 12, 2011
    I'm not a trucker, but I am a wife, and it used to be that any time my husband was upset about something I always used to try to get him to feel better by trying to have a positive outlook and saying that things were going to get better, etc. HOWEVER, unbeknownst to me it always pissed him off and finally he blew a gasket with me. Then, I got mad at HIM for not being appreciative of my "support." Long story short, he said that when he's upset, he doesn't want someone telling him that things will get better or to tell him about the brighter side of things, etc. (Anyway, I'm not saying you do this as this is my story). After THAT learning experience with the hubby, I waited.

    Sure enough, he got upset about something else a few months later so, in remembrance of what he said, I told him, "Yeah, you're right. Things really are absolutely terrible for you...Hell, if I were you I don't think I could stand it and would just have to go find someplace to kill myself and end it all right now. It sure must suck to be you!"

    LOL! Needless to say, he started laughing and called me an ###-hole. ;) It ended up changing his entire outlook and his mood for the better. So, now, our running joke whenever he's upset (which is rare), I just say something similar to the above and he's laughing again.

    Note: Your results may vary, and if you know or suspect he's suicidal please don't try this!
    Last edited: Dec 10, 2011
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  5. customtanks

    customtanks Light Load Member

    Jul 13, 2008
    The Great NW
    Thats kinda scary, I have nothing more to say lol...
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  6. Raamman

    Raamman Light Load Member

    Jan 21, 2011
    Airbase Two
    tell him you are proud of him, facing up to the difficulties and challenges ahead- and be proud- its a hard task to learn and a lot to endure without the comforts of home being away from friends and family; so far he hasn t walked away has he ? so he's still giving it a shot, despite it all- it takes a brave man willing to do that- but things dont happen by giving up- and if he does, respect that still because it is not just a job driving a truck, it is a real and constant possiblity of someone getting seriously hurt or killed through inexperience- and there is no shame in accepting ones own limitations
  7. shana3178

    shana3178 Bobtail Member

    Sep 16, 2011
    Paris, Tx
    Honestly...with my hubby being a newbie also I've learned to just get used to it. He will never be home when he thinks he will be. He will never have things exactly as he needs them and heck we are only in the first month of my husband driving. He was also told that he could be dropped at any training center, didnt have to be the one by his home. The best thing we have found is to tell ourselves this is only temporary. It may be bad now but once he learns the ropes and how things operate it will get better. Wishing you guys good luck!
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  8. RAGE 18

    RAGE 18 Road Train Member

    Jan 31, 2011
    Tell him to shift as smooth as he can and always watch his rpm and speedometer. Tell him you love him for the sacrifice of staying out and sleeping in a lonely truck, tell him you admire him for his courage to face challenges in that large vehicle and above all tell him you are there with him even though you are far apart.
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  9. marmonman

    marmonman Road Train Member

    Dec 14, 2009
    central illinois
    just look him the eye and say in your most loving voice....... Shut up stupid I aint got no panties on . If he has had the CB on in the last couple of months he will get the joke and you both will be tickled .....LOL
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  10. 123456

    123456 Road Train Member

    Oct 22, 2010
    Is he still empoyed there ??
  11. hrtbr8kr

    hrtbr8kr Medium Load Member

    Nov 25, 2011
    Yukon, OK
    haaaaaaaaaahaaaaaaaaaaa oh my, my ribs hurt rotfl!!!
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