Keeping your ducks in a row, for your family.

Trying to get my mom to do things now while she can.
My mom has a nice little farm that she wants me to have, but I don't want it. Trying to get her to sell now and make investments. I'm thinking she'll need the cash flow for her care in the future. I can't make her understand unless she just drops dead I'll have to sell the farm to pay for her care. Older people can be very hard headed.

 

Ya know the older we get the harder it is to move away from everything we have worked and slaved for. However, I understand your dilemma. But ask yourself will she be happy away from her farm and where will she live until the time she needs assisted care if that happens. At least she has a child that cares about her and wants things to be better for everyone concerned.

 

First let me say I am truly sorry for your loss, loosing a mate must be brutal. Thank you for sharing and giving us some insight into the problems that lay ahead. Because of what you reminded me of I got on my lawyers butt about my will and stuff. He's a good friend but hates to talk to me about these things with people he cares about. Sad but true.

 

True indeed. We went through that with our mom. My sisters had a problem with what our mother told us. She didn't write it out but we all heard it when the subject would come up. I followed through with what our mom wanted. It pays to write things out while you are in your right mind & strong

 

My condolences to you and your family.

 

It sucks when you can't believe 100% in your spouse. It sucks even more when you really give a #### about what you have/had when you're dead. The only thing I care about is if The Hazul will be ok financially if I kick tomorrow. That's what I've worked/planned to do. That was my goal. And I did it. And I have no more worries.

Personally, I've never lived my life to provide for my ADULT children. If they get a piece, well good on them. Otherwise, my thoughts were only for my wife.

 

Regarding wills make sure their is a beneficiary named. Some people tend they leave everything to estate which means estate will go into probate hell for the executor. Always name Beneficiary.