Wife of a trucker, I need help!!! from you guys on the road.

Hi Robyn, and welcome to the forum! It's kind of hard to know what to tell you, since we don't know either of you. The best thing I can think of is COMMUNICATION with each other. That is the only way that you can let each other know what each of you need and want.

I can suggest some things NOT to do. Don't save up all the kids misbehavior to tell him about when he walks in the door, and don't expect him to deal with something that occurred days or weeks ago! That, I think is one of the worst things one parent can do to the other! "JUST WAIT 'TILL YOUR FATHER GETS HOME!" may be a cute line for a TV show, but in real life it is worthless!

Keep in daily contact with him while he is gone. With cell phones, this is almost always easy to do. Discuss things with him. "How do you feel about Johnny taking up trombone, or Suzie learning ballet," is MUCH better than a "done deal" that he has no input on.

Be frugal with your list of "honey do's" that you save up for him. Make sure that when he is home, he has some time with the whole family, time with each individual child, and time with just you!

You have a tough job right now. Make sure that you have some "ME TIME!" Don't let yourself get so busy taking care of everything and everyone else, that you don't make some time to relax by yourself.

Keep in mind that you guys aren't alone in this situation. Every military family, every long haul trucking family, every family who has one or the other parent having to work away from home faces the same dilemmas.

 

Do you have anyone who can babysit in there home? if you do plan a romantic night when he comes home. Surprise him .. might even try a nice motel room for the night.

 

As a 22+ year veteran of OTR trucking, and a 29 year veteran of being married to my high school sweetheart, communication, daily helps a lot. Like Big Don said, involve him with stuff going on at home...sometimes just being an ear for him to vent to and a shoulder to cry on makes a world of difference to us. And when I am home, the little things mean a lot, a surprise hug, or a quick back scratching or maybe even a back rub after a hard day of battling the honey-do list always brings a smile...I can't count the times I have found little "l miss you and can wait to see you" type notes in various items I bring out here... Shoot, I am adding an addition to my home for my mother-in-law, my wife was out there with me helping me pour concrete footing on the 1st serious day...that night we took turns with the back-rubbing

It takes a special type of woman to be a truckers wife. I know many many drivers who have many ex-wives...but it sounds like you're doing all the right things and have the right attitude...patience is priceless in a trucking relationship...hang in there and be patient, it will all work out.

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Do you have anyone who can babysit in there home? if you do plan a romantic night when he comes home. Surprise him .. might even try a nice motel room for the night.

 

Where is home Robyn?